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Feel Like All Your Desires Are Hobbies

When we have an energy towards our desires of needing them to happen in order for us to be happy, we are sending out a signal that pushes them farther away from us. But when we can feel that our lives are incredibly wonderful and beautiful now(gratitude is the fertile soil of creation), then our desires can be like hobbies. An extra bonus to an already perfect life!

This is an incredibly powerful magnetic stance to take. In fact the more you want a desire, the more important vibrationally it is to feel like it’s no big deal whether you get it or not! We need to have a light touch with manifesting because needing, longing, yearning vibrations are not magnetic to desires, but rather they magnetize more lack into our lives.

Can you see that your life is already perfect and that anything added onto it is gravy? Can you spend the majority of your days dwelling on what’s already here that’s good? Socrates said, “He who is not contented with what he has, would not be contented with what he would like to have.” When you become so contented with what you already have, your desires become a fun addition to a wonderful life and you become incredibly magnetic to all you desires!
Let your desires be a bonus to an already perfect life and watch them come true!

Love and Magic,
Denise

The most powerful thing we can do…

The most powerful thing we can do to feel it real is this:
Instead of using the feelings to get the outcomes. Use the imagined outcomes to get the feelings.
This makes us happier in our now AND more powerful at manifesting.
Imagine living in that dream home for the feelings it gives you. Imagine being a megamillionaire for the feelings it gives you. Imagine true love for the feelings it gives you.
Outcome, shmoutcome. THE FEELINGS ARE THE JUICE OF LIFE!
LOVE you all,
Denise

Why is Fun So Important?

Too often, with Law of Attraction and Feeling it Real. people become quite serious about manifesting. This wouldn’t be a big deal if being very serious wasn’t sending out the vibration of “I don’t have it now and manifesting it is crucial.” Which, as you can guess, isn’t the highest of frequencies. When we can make feeling it real fun, we raise the vibration of our manifesting to one of “life is good now, and this neat thing would be wonderful too!”. This, as you can imagine, nets more powerful results.

Unfortunately, the vibration of “fun” or “play” is seen as quite frivolous in our action oriented society. Many people actually plan on waiting to have fun until they retire! But, the truth about the vibration of fun is that it is a high vibrating, fast moving frequency that always helps with peoples’ manifesting, never hinders.

Haven’t you ever noticed in your own life when you take time off from solving your problems and go do something for the pure joy of it, the problem more often than not, works itself out? We don’t usually associate the having fun with the problem being worked out, but I’ve noticed in studying vibration, that FUN acts like a fuel of sorts to manifesting. That’s why we have a game in my book and on the free forums called “Filling your Fun Tank” because when that “tank” runs low, we might as well stop doing our manifesting exercises because the car isn’t really going to go anywhere if we’re not having any fun. That’s also why I call the exercises “games” in both the book, Feel it Real! and in the ICP program. The word “game” has quite a fun frequency, whereas “exercise” or “process” sounds somewhat like a college exam!

So, how can you make manifesting your desires more fun? Well, it may sound ironic, but taking fun tank day very seriously every seventh day of the program is a start. Truly make yourself have as much fun as you can on those days. In fact, in week twelve of the I.C.P. program, we’ve dedicated an entire week to the students having nothing but fun and keeping a ‘fun log’. You can hold the FUN note for sixteen counts. You can do something little or big today just for the fun of it. You can play a game in a fun way, maybe at the beach or on a fun hike, or blowing soap bubbles, or even while watching TV. If you have kids or pets, fun just got a lot easier, because it’s their natural state to have as much fun every day as possible.

So, today I invite you to stop seeing “fun” as a distraction from your manifesting, but rather to see it as the very fuel that enables your manifestation car to drive to the finish line!

What fun are you going to have today?

"Leggo My Ego!"

Okay, so today I was chatting with a friend about the ‘ego’. Some teachers say to embrace it. Some teachers say the ego is the “enemy”, etc.

After I got off the phone, I turned within and asked my Inner Guidance “What’s up with this whole “ego” thing? Why do so many teachers say it’s not good, etc. etc. What is the “ego” anyway?

Well, I felt a surge of happy goosebumps(always a clear sign that my Intuition is speaking) and I got a FIRBEE translation of what the “ego” is.

Ready?

The Ego= The wanting feeling.
The Spirit=The having feeling.

The ego says I want things. The Spirit says I have everything. The ego says there’s not enough. The Spirit says there’s more than enough.

Desiring from the ego/wanting feeling is painful. Desiring from our Spirit of feeling like we already have it is heavenly.

Neat, huh?

But instead of hating our wanting/needing feelings, why not LOVE those feelings too? Thank them, embrace them. Talk tenderly to our wanting/needing feelings. Tell them we love them too and instantly the “ego” melts into havingness and love.

I love you. I say thank you to you all today. I love having a place to share this stuff!

Love and Magic,
Denise

Do It For The Feelings, Not The Manifestations

When we make our secondary goals the manifesting and the primarily goals the feelings, we free up a lot of energy to enjoy the precious present moment!

I like to think of our biggest dreams as the object of our meditation that helps us to feel great bliss in our here and now!

So, why not decide that the only thing you want from your top three desires is all those juicy feelings? And then decide to feel those right now!

Love and Magic,
Denise

Familiarity Breeds Success

Let’s face it. The first time you try to get into the feeling place of already having your desires, it may feel a bit contrived, foreign and unfamiliar. That’s because you have spent very little time hanging out on that reality’s frequency and you are so much more used to the feelings of wanting it or needing it, which means not having it. Becoming familiar with the feelings you would have if you manifested your desire takes time. It takes time to get to know your desire’s frequency. Just as when you meet someone for the first time, you aren’t familiar enough with them to call them your best friend. It takes time and familiarity.

Can you learn to become friends with the feelings you would have if your desire was already here? The more often you spend time with those feelings (either by doing magnetizers or games or your own process), the more familiar you become with the frequencies and the easier it gets to feel those feelings. Just like after awhile you feel comfortable opening up to a friend you have learned to trust over time.

Another aspect of familiarity is that the more we practice as “vibrational musicians”, learning to hold the note of already having our desires, the more naturally our body and brain chemistries change to accommodate the new feelings. Also, the more magnetic we become to these feelings and the thoughts that attract them. After awhile, it gets downright easy to feel the feelings of already having your desire. It just takes repetitive practice.

It takes a few “get to know you dates” with those feelings of having it before it starts to feel normal. Once you get past that initial discomfort, it’s like you become fast friends with those feelings and it begins to feel more natural having your desire than not having it.

When that happens, manifestation is inevitable.

So, get to know those feelings. I do my magnetizers every day even now! After awhile the feelings become more and more normal and I know, the more natural it feels, the faster it’s on its way to me!

Love and Magic,
Denise

The Difference Between Talking About the Law of Attraction and Actually Applying It

If you find yourself talking about The Law of Attraction like it’s a fascinating subject in school, remember that this doesn’t necessarily get you attracting your desires. Knowing about it is wonderful and helpful and incredibly interesting. But if you want to see results–Powerful, quick, and amazing results, stop talking about The Law of Attraction and start playing the Feel It Real! games or join the daily coaching program. If you’re already in the program, you’ll notice I don’t spend much time talking about The Law of Attraction or feeling it real in terms of theory. I just get you right into feeling like you already have your desires.

Yes, it would be nice if just talking about the theories behind feeling it real got our vibration attracting in our specific desires, just as it would be nice if talking about the theory of physiology and exercise got us into great shape. But the truth is, at some point, we’ll want to get on that treadmill, do some yoga, or lift some weights if we want to tone our muscles. If you want to manifest your desires, you’ll want to join a “vibrational gym” and practice feeling like your desires are already here.

I wrote Feel it Real! in order to create games and specific techniques that help us to actually vibrate at having our specific desires. The more practical these games and processes, the more profound the results.

So, today, why don’t you ask yourself often, “Am I talking/thinking about feeling it real? Or am I actually practicing the games/processes/techniques that get me vibrating at the feelings of already having my desires, thus emitting a frequency that attracts my good to me?”

If you want a very specific plan for feeling it real, you can try the Feel It Real! I.C.P. three days free. (Find out more HERE) Or, if you want to do something free of charge, just play the games in the Free Forums. That alone can change everything!

Remember, feeling it real is all about vibrating at the frequencies of already having our desires. And we do that by practicing the games that get you into the feeling place, not by learning more theory.

Love and Magic,
Denise

What Three Goals Do You Want To Manifest in this New Year?

“If you don’t know where you are going,you’ll end up someplace else.” -Yogi Berra

Whether you are in the online coaching program or not, it’s so important to ask yourself what you want this coming year. Not what your resolutions are, but what you actually want to attract into your lives. It seems so simple that we need to ask ourselves what we actually want before we can have it, but so many people are so caught up in getting by and reacting to current circumstances that they don’t take time out to actually get still within themselves and ask “What do I want to attract this year?” Most people never take a pen to paper and write the goals down.

In the online coaching program we are committed to helping you manifest your top three goals in the first year of the program through daily exercises and games, but the most important exercise of all is actually asking yourself, “What do I want to create this year? What are my top three desires?”

Why not do it now?

There’s no better time than the New Year to get clear with the Universe on what you want to attract into your life. Get vibrationally focused and very clear on your goals, and you will attract the means to achieve them.

Gratitude is like a Muscle

Have you noticed that whenever you stop to notice all that’s good in your life, you are surprised to notice all the wonderful things you tend to overlook? Our minds are so easily trained to focus on what’s wrong that practicing the art of noticing what’s right take some practice. It’s like building a muscle.

At first, making lists of things to feel grateful for may feel awkward or seem contrived, but that is only because we are not used to noticing the good stuff. Just like the first time you lift a weight, it may seem awkward or too heavy. But after awhile it very much becomes a part of your life. Before long, practicing the art of gratitude becomes habitual and when it does, we reset our dominant vibrational out-signal to one of abundance, happiness, and joy.

When we don’t notice all the good that is in our lives already, our gratitude muscle atrophies and we find ourselves feeling unfulfilled much of the time. However, when we practice DAILY gratitude, it’s as if we build a strong healthy happiness muscle and what’s very cool is we literally attract more things into our lives to feel grateful for.

Can you make practicing gratitude a daily part of your life? Can you make a small list every single day, taking the time to notice what’s going right in your life already? If you make this small commitment, the pay off is so huge. Not only do you attract wonderful events into your life, you have a tangible, practical way to feel joy at will.

In our online interactive coaching program and free forums, we make time every day for you to come and practice building your gratitude muscle. We invite you to come and join us!

The Feel It Real! Interactive Coaching Program!